DON'T HAVE WHAT YOU WANT IN LIFE? THEN MAKE IT HAPPEN!

So here's the deal...I'm not working right now (in a traditional, out of the house, sense).  So money is pretty tight.  We also moved to a new house, in a new state less than a year ago. 

I have some things I really want in my life:
1.  Make money through my blog /life coaching to allow me to work from home & help support our family (thus hubby can cut back to working only 1000 hours of OT, instead of 2500)!
2.  Make friends: girlfriends to go to dinner with, 'couple' friends that hubby & I enjoy barbecuing with, watching the Superbowl, etc., make friends with people who have kids my kids' ages for playdates and family fun, etc.
3.  Talk with other people struggling with weight loss to get support and give support and purposefully find this for FREE without joining someone else's program (ie. Weight Watchers).
4.  Okay, so there's like a bunch more...but why bore you right now?!

So, I had a little creative moment a few weeks back and I decided something that was very important to me:
Instead of waiting to be invited to make friends with someone...seek them out...the worst that happens is they say no.  So what.  If they don't like my quirky personality then I really will never be at ease with the friendship anyway and don't really need them as a friend.  So I set out to 'make my own way'...in a sense create what I wanted (there's this awesome line at the end of Francis Mayes's novel/movie Under the Tuscan Sun where the main character discovers she was able to create all the things she really wanted in life/her home but in a different way than how she perceived they would be, leading her to say, "Unthinkably good things can happen even late in the game. It's such a surprise."). 

• First, I decided to throw a 'Family Friendly New Years Eve Party'...I hired our teenage babysitter and her friend to come and entertain the kids in our playroom/family room and all the adults enjoyed wine & appetizers upstairs...it was good, we had a smaller turn-out than I had hoped for, but it was fun & I was glad I reached out instead of waiting to be invited to someone else's party (which I did for the last 20 years of my life...wait to be invited to someone else's party!).
• Second, I decided to organize a girls nite out...it hasn't happened yet, but should in the next 3 weeks, and the women I'm telling about it are so excited, they were sitting home craving the same thing--somoene just needed to take the 'bull by the horns'!
• Third, I invited a few moms/kids over and invited myself over to their house for playdates & we're having lots of fun!
• Forth, I'm seeking coaching of my own and help in advancing my 'blogging skills' and finding what I want out of my emerging business.
• Fifth & finally, I sent a message out to a 'Mother's Group' I'm a part of (shout out Maplewood/South Orange Mother's & More Chapter!) regarding having a FREE/Kid-friendly weight loss support network.  The response was overwhelming!  Other women were craving the same thing, so we're planning a couple of different groups a week that will be set up like a playgroup but instead of talking about the same ol' shit (ie. I feel fat...my husband left the seat up...my neighbor's husband is having an affair and she doesn't know it...perfect mommy A, 'I always send my thank you notes out within 30 minutes of receiving the gift and don't understand people who don't, it's so easy'--this is when the rest of the mother's all take a sip of coffee at the same time and figure out a way to take down perfect mommy A!---haha!)...anyway, we are going to purposefully keep the conversation focused on supporting each other on the different variety of programs we're following, talk about healthy food, talk about roadblocks, talk about motivation, and celebrate each other's achievements while in a sense setting goals and holding each other accountable to achieving their goals each week--I'm SO excited, the first group should be meeting this Thursday so I'll keep ya posted.

My final thought is, what is it you want in your life?  I assume if you 'want it' you don't 'have it' now.  What's stopping you?  Are you waiting for something or someone?  DON'T...decide right now to take the steps necessary to create what you want in your life!  There's no better time than RIGHT NOW!  Carpe diem...Sieze the day!

Comments

[madison]

i want to be in the midlle of something.like a pouplar group comes up to me and she wants me to be pouplar.but my real freinds want me to stay the way i am.in the midlle of school at the play ground.playing.

[EssieWaller23]

Have no money to buy a car? Worry no more, just because it's real to take the home loans to solve such kind of problems. So take a short term loan to buy all you want.