Yes, I know I cannot control the universe...but after a series of long talks with my husband I think I have come to some realizations...we/me/I/us need some stability in our lives. In the merry-go-round/blame game I believe I have found a very consistent problem/obstacle in my life. I fear the unknown and I fear change. After taking a very long and hard look at our lives as individuals, a couple, and a family we have realized that we have had a major life change every year of our marriage (11 years...and counting!). In addition, truly I have had a major life change longer than that...join me on a stroll down memory lane...
2008...in late January we moved into a new house in a new state and essentially knew we would never see our old friends (yes, even if you move 15 miles away...if your in NYC/surrounding area you might as well have moved to London...you're never seeing your old friends on a regular basis again!)...husband travels more than 1/2 the year on business....dog dies....we are finally debt free (well, credit card debt!)...begin this blog...stop nursing baby....deal with stagnant weight loss....deal with weight gain...
2007...baby Z is born on Father's Day, comes home to a one-bedroom apartment (yep 4 of us in 1 bedroom--argh!)....husband goes to Iraq (as a journalist)...quit my job to be a mom...elected to Board of Directors for our co-op...lose over 50 pounds during the year...try to sell apartment, it falls through...finally sell apartment....pay off a lot of debt
2006....baby S arrives 6 weeks early and is in the NICU for 10 days....husband has long business trip overseas...go back to work after baby is born...unexpected, but amazing gift of 2nd pregnancy....husband's grandmother dies....deal with a major depression....lose 40+ pounds....pay off a huge chuck of debt
2005....buy a one-bedroom in NYC...think about finding a new job...lose some weight...sister and brother get married 6 weeks apart...get knocked up (unexpected but wonderful news!)...grandmother dies, leaving me heartbroken
2004...relocate from Cincinnati to NYC, rent a 1 bedroom apartment in Manhattan....can't find a job in my field (at least not at the level I wanted)...take a job teaching high school...lose 30 pounds
2003...promoted to Director of the Family Center, becoming one of the youngest directors at the non-profit ever...hit all time highest weight....we come the realization that we have accumulated a HUGE amount of debt and face a big problem in pulling ourselves out of debt
2002...graduate with my MSW (masters in social work) while working full time...promoted to Program Manager of a large program
2001...working full time, going to school full time, new internship...promoted to Family Center Coordinator...9/11/01 very emotional....therapist I just started seeing falls to her death 4 weeks later while hiking, I think it's no big deal, but it secretly bothers me for years
2000...start graduate school...begin an internship
1999...apply to graduate school...promoted to Family Support Coordinator...walk in a marathon
1998....after being in Knoxville only 6 months husband gets a job in Cincinnati, move to Cincinnati/ Northern Kentucky....find a new job...move into an apartment...try to make friends...try to acclimate to a very large (well, it seemed at time anyway) city...
1997...graduate from college...get married....move away from home--Erie, PA--to Knoxville, TN....begin 1st 'real job'
1996...boyfriend/husband moves to Georgia for a job...spend summer in Georgia with boyfriend/husband...get engaged
1995...meet husband, fall in love...decide to stop playing college basketball
1994...grandfather I'm very close to dies unexpectedly of a heart attack
1993...1st 'love' breaks my heart...recruited to play basketball by several colleges...go to college
1992...fall in love for the first time
1991...hmmm....I don't remember a major life change this year...at the time I'm sure my issues seemed 'huge'....but probably the biggest things in my life were that I had started driving and normal high school angst.
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